Yesterday I described the model of "Power Over". Today I want to compare that to a model of mutual power.
In a context of mutual power, I have individual personal power, and I know this. And you have individual personal power. I also know this and respect it. There is a spirit of mutuality. I expect to be treated with respect and dignity. In turn, I expect to treat you with respect and dignity. From this standpoint, we can come together to co-create.
When we have a disagreement, I can listen to your side with compassion and empathy. I can express my side with confidence that it will be listened to with the same level of compassion and empathy. Together we can come to some mutual understanding. I want to get what I want, and I also want you to have what you want.
From a place of mutuality, we can look at the situation and reach conclusions that are in the best interests of each other, and perhaps of a larger community as well.".
So now compare these ideas of "Power Over" with the ideas of "Mutual Power". Which idea best describes the atmosphere in your home? Are you happy with this atmosphere?
As the Parent Success Coach, I am here to help. Feel free to drop me a line at Jane@TheParentSuccessCoach.com to comment or to ask a question.
To Your Family,
Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach
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