Friday, September 23, 2011

The Need to Feel Valuable


Dear Parents,

Everyone wants to feel like they are valuable, that they contribute to the whole in some way.   

As parents our need to feel valuable is often met just by fufilling the responsibilities of daily life. Providing financially, shopping, cooking, cleaning, transporting children here and there, are all ways in which we can feel valuable.  

How do our teens feel valuable?  Sometimes when we play “Super Mom”  or Dad. we can sometimes get into the habit of doing way too much for our kids.  Although our intentions can be pure, we run the risk of leaving their need to feel valuable unmet.

When they are not feeling valuable, you might see them giving up, quitting things, or being highly unmotivated. 
If this is the case, ask yourself what things are you doing for your teen that your teen really can and should do for herself?  And then begin to let go of these things, and let your teen handle it.  
You and your teen may both struggle in the beginning.  As the Parent Success Coach, I am here to help.

To Your Family,

Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach

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