Monday, September 12, 2011

Tip # 7 Let them do stuff that you would normally do for them.


Dear Parents,

My husband and I were going on vacation for two weeks, and our two teenagers were staying home with their grandmother.  During this time, they were asked to maintain the house as we normally would. 

They decided they wanted to cook some of the meals.  In the weeks before the trip, my son took the initiative to learn how to use the BBQ.  My daughter became interested in specifics about certain recipes. "What do you season it with?" "What temperature do you cook it at, and for how long?"

What was the difference in the communication taking place between us? The direction of communication changed.  Rather than parents talking at or down to the children by telling them what to do, the children spoke up to the parents and proactively asked for the information they needed.  As they took on the responsibility of planning their meals for the net two weeks, they welcomed guidance and open dialogue.

There is a difference in communication when you are relating to each other on an experiential level.  The communication takes place at the level of relating one’s experience to another who has or will have the same experience.  This is a very enjoyable way to interact and build family trust, not to mention great memories.

 
To Your Family,

Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach
Providing Guidance to Create Harmony and Loving Family Connections

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