Dear Parents,
Do you worry that because she failed a sixth grade math quiz that she’ll never get into a good college, and never have a career? Do you express this concern out loud?
As parents we all want the best for our children, and naturally, having walked the path before, want to provide them with the best chances for their success. However, we sometimes feel pressure to plan their entire path. When we fantasize about the worst outcome from behaviors that deviate from our ideal, it puts undue pressure on them.
If you’ve ever been the object of someone else’s fantasy of your doomed future, you know how frustrating it is to defend yourself. After all, the story of your future is just a story, it’s not real.
Understand that when engaging in this type of behavior, you are preventing real communication with your child.
As children mature into adults, it is their job to create their life path and determine their own future. As a parent, you can do your best to provide them with the love, guidance and opportunities they need.
In the end, it is their responsibility to take their life experience and create it into what they really want. It is far more powerful to teach them self reliance and skills to manage their own future.
To Your Family,
Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach
Providing Guidance to Create Harmony and Loving Family Connections
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