Dear Parents,
Yesterday I was telling you about how I took a course called Redirecting Children's Behavior (RCB), and how that course rocked my world.
At the time I was having a problem getting my son to do homework. He would always procrastinate until the last minute. It was driving me crazy. I complained about it a lot. I talked with him about it a lot.
But it never changed.
But it never changed.
In RCB, I learned that I was rescuing him - giving him lot of attention and help at the last minute. So my behavior was actually ENCOURAGING him to PROCRASTINATE!
I decided to change my behavior, to see what would happen. The next time he waited until the last minute, I resisted the urge to rescue him and help him. This was very hard for me to do. I felt very uncomfortable. I second guessed myself. And it wasn't pretty the first time, or the second.
But in a few short weeks, I had broken the habit of rescuing him at the last minute. And guess what? He started doing his work on time.
But in a few short weeks, I had broken the habit of rescuing him at the last minute. And guess what? He started doing his work on time.
At first I was embarrassed to realize that I was encouraging the behavior that I was complaining about. But I was so excited to realize that I had the power to change my conditions. It was also a lot faster and easier than I ever expected it to be!
Tomorrow I'll tell you what I did next!
To Your Family,
Jane Cabrera,
The Parent Success Coach
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