Tip # 3 – Allow them some space to express their frustration, anger, hurt, annoyance, etc.
As parents, it is natural to feel that our job is to guide our children. However, it is possible to be too rigid, always lecturing and telling kids what they “should do” or what they “should feel”. When they complain about their daily dramas are you always trying to get them to listen to you, and accept your view of what they should do or how they should feel? If so, you have set yourself up for a world of frustration at this time.
What they need most is an empathetic listening ear. Someone who can hear and reflect back their experience. It's OK to just listen and say "Wow you sound upset" or "Wow, that sounds frustrating".
It is important that they have a safe place to express themselves and to know that they are loved.
To Your Family,
Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach
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