Listening is the most important part of communication and the number one way for you to communicate with your teen. Have you ever been talking and you notice someone is not paying attention. It could be the glazing over of the eyes or even the fact that they are not looking at you directly. You feel put off, right?
The same applies to you and a conversation with your teen. Your conversations might become fewer and shorter as they grow more independent of you. Treat each one as precious. Here’s how.
- Make eye contact – Look your child in the face as they talk to you. What they have to say may not be earth-shattering but it is important to them.
Also remember that they learn exactly what you model. When you make a habit of making eye contact with them, they will not only return that by making eye contact with you when they communicate, but they will also make it a habit of making eye contact with others.
I have had teachers and coaches comment to me that my son was very respectful, that he listens attentively. This feeling of respect was communicated simply by his habit of making eye contact with a person when they are speaking. If you have ever spoken in a group setting, as a teacher, coach, or presenter of some type, you will really appreciate the members of your audience who make eye contact with you when you are speaking.
So simple, yet so powerful.
To Your Family,
Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach
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