Dear Parents,
The college orientation process also included a lot of discussion about partying and substance abuse. First year students are faced with lots of opportunities for distractions, and have to learn how to navigate their new found freedom with their educational and other goals.
In previous posts I've talked about controlling behavior, and viewing our kids from the perspective of an "Ideal Image". When someone relates to you as an "ideal image" they are not really relating to you as a unique and special individual. That can leave you feeling empty and disconnected from the world, and even from yourself. As parents, the way we relate to our children influences their sense of self. If they are feeling disconnected from self, this leaves them vulnerable to looking outside of themselves for approval and acceptance. How connected our kids feel to themselves and to us is a major influence in the choices they will make at this time of transition.
To Your Family,
Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach
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