Saturday, October 29, 2011

Obstacles to Setting Boundaries 3

Dear Parents,

Another obstacle to setting boundaries is we have a fear of abandonment, which leads us to people pleasing behaviors.  Do you find it hard to say no?  Why is that? At some level, we all have the need to belong and we all want to be liked.  This is natural.  

 If we have developed too much dependency on others, we look to others for validation, and we seek their approval, it can be very difficult This is especially true if we have developed habits of taking care of others and neglecting ourselves, or if that behavior was modeled for us.  For example if your Mom was a person who took care of others and neglected herself, you might have picked that up as an example of how women are supposed to be.  Once that habit has been developed, it can be hard to break the mold and start putting yourself first.

There are effective strategies to overcome these boundaries.  Please join me on Tuesday November 1st at Noon EST for a free telelseminar, Boundaries the Limits of Love.  Click Here to Register.
To Your Family,

Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach

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