Thursday, October 13, 2011

3 Steps to Break the Cycle of Revenge

Dear Parents,

If you are in a revenge cycle with your teen, there are three important steps that you can take to break the cycle.

Step 1 is DON’T HURT BACK.  DO NOT PUNISH.

Now this will feel like you are letting them get away with it, and for a time, you are.
If you are very angry, you might just have to walk away.  That’s OK.  Just walk away.  Understand that not responding at all is better than hurting back.   Punishment is just a form of overpowering.  Overpowering someone who already feels overpowered isn’t helping the situation.  

Tomorrow I will tell you step 2.
To Your Family,

Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach

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