Dear Parents,
Coaching is a great way to get one on one attention and to quickly move you in the direction that you want to go. I utilize the unique Inside/Out Parenting Approach™ with my clients. Let's explore an example of how it works.
A Dad in the program was experiencing significant anxiety over a situation at work. A co-worker in a position of authority was abusive in his communication and the anxiety was consuming much of my client's attention. We first addressed the dynamics of this type of behavior, and came up with ways to set verbal boundaries, more effective responses to the communication. We then talked about setting psychic boundaries, which was understanding that the abusive communication reflected the co-workers state of mind, not my client's reality. I referred him to some good books on the topic, and he got clear on "Power Over" communication, and why someone would use it.
The Dad reported a situation where his teen was acting up and needed to be redirected. Dad normally would use an authoritative "power over" tone with his teen. In that moment, he had the awareness, and changed his tone. The communication went very well, and resulted in successful redirection of the behavior in a manner that resulted in closeness.
This is a great example of the Inside/Out Parenting Approach. The inner realization and ability to make another choice is a powerful way to make lasting change. The nice thing is that it's effortless, it happens in the moment.
Great job Dad!!!
To Your Family,
Jane Cabrera
The Parent Success Coach
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